The question is....

As a trained coach, I quickly saw the benefits of using powerful questions with my clients. Powerful, not in the sense of being challenging or overtly direct, but just asking the right question based on my observations of what they were saying. Questions also based on what they were not saying.

One of my clients struggled with finding focus in her life. As we worked through a layout of her day, I wondered how she managed to find the time to eat! As we then began to chunk down all of her tasks, I asked her what things she wanted to do and what things she felt she 'had to do'. As she did this I notice that she said 'I should...' about some of the tasks.

I pointed this out to her and asked her how great doing something she felt she should do was. Naturally she replied that it was pretty rubbish, and that she wanted to do the things she wanted to do, not should do.

By working on self questions like this we can quite easily identify aspects of our days that drain our energy, and replace them with things that energise us. My client shaved off half off her workload by allocating some of it to other people, and started to enjoy her days doing as she wished to do - which was to build a new business.

One of the questions I ask myself when making a decision on a task is, 'Will doing this enhance my life/growth/business/relationships [any one thing can apply] or take something away from it?'

Getting into a coaching mindset of asking open questions can significantly improve the way that you deal with day to day difficulties, particularly in relationships.

Jan
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Letting Go

There is one person in your life that puts you under more pressure than anyone else.

That person is YOU!

Sadly it often takes a life changing event to make us realise how hard we drive ourselves. For me it started with the death of my dad and, at the same time, a very sick horse.

My priorities had to stand on their head for over three months as I nursed the horse. At the end of it I became aware of how unbalanced my life was. I spent little time enjoying the good things and people in my life, and I was so in the middle of my business that I could not assess progress, or create more definable strategies.

I changed it, and guess what happened? I simply switched to another equally unbalanced process, spending too much time doing what I wanted and not enough time working. Would I ever get it right?

It's work in progress, and I think it is like that for most of us. These days I tend to do what I feel like doing and let go of the things that I feel I 'should' be doing. It's early days, and I am a bit of a blank canvas with few paints. But, in the main 'letting go' has removed a vast amount of pressure. I no longer beat myself up for doing or not doing, and I allow myself downtime if I feel stressed or tired.

Strangely, it seems that I am actually able to get more work done by being less driven by it. A bit of pressure is a necessary thing, we all need a little stress in order for us to get things done. But the last thing we need is to be getting on at ourselves night and day. So let it go. It may feel a little odd at first, but stay with it for a week or two and see what happens.

Jan
Tel: 0800 634 3320
http://www.womenssuccesscoach.co.uk/
http://www.thepeoplewhisperers.co.uk/
http://www.helpforcancer.co.uk/

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