Stop making excuses

I once remember saying to someone close to me, 'when you die, I am going to put on your gravestone 'yeah but....'

This person had become afraid of life. By admission she said she felt caged in, trapped and unable to move. But, whatever suggestions anyone made, she could find an excuse for not doing it.

We can all find excuses, and utterly persuade ourselves that our excuses ARE 100% valid.

But what excuse are you going to come up with for wasting your life? That is not another persons judgement as to whether you are wasting your life, but rather your own. What are you not doing that you really want to do, but aren't for fear of consequences, fear of change or an inability to take action?

No one is going to come and do it for you after all. If you decide to squander your hours wishing things were different, but doing nothing, don't expect any sympathy from those around you.

A friend told me a story about when his dad was in hospital dying. Just before he went down to surgery {from which he never recovered} his father grabbed his hand, and implored him, 'son, I have wasted every single minute of my life. I haven't done one good thing, but worse I haven't done all the things I wanted to do, and it's too late now. Don't waste your life like I have.'

You think you may have 70 plus years on this earth and you become complacent - do it tomorrow, or the next day or never! Do it now. Pick up the reins of your life and play an active part in your destiny. When you are old, crippled, insane and in a wheelchair, you will have bucketloads of memories to play with.

Do it now - whatever it is that you want to do - no excuses!

Jan
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Going with the flow

Yesterday I had an ex student call me up. She is a wonderful girl, and it was great to hear from her. She is a student from my healing horses teaching days. I don't do this any longer, it just seemed the right time to stop a few years back.

She called to ask me a few questions about her current journey. She was being guided to start an animal practice, and wanted my insights. I gave them gladly. What followed was an interesting conversation about going with the flow of life, and what happens when we resist.

I know about resisting. I had crawled along on broken glass with bleeding knees, for the best part of my life doing it. I could lecture in resisting, maybe get a degree even. But that is the past. I thought, silly me, that I had stopped resisting, but it is not until something weird hits us that we think, 'what the heck, where is THIS going?'

I made some decisions lately, no, hang on, lets get this right, they weren't actual decisions. They were 100% gut instinct, intuition, subconscious brainwave activity maybe. No sir, they definitely had little to do with my conscious mind.

I took action, pretty massive action actually, and still, as I did it, wondered what I was doing. But, and here's the interesting thing, the response from a handful of people has been incredible. One lady said that she has never related to anything so much in her life. O'er, that's sounds good. Maybe, just maybe I am onto something radical here. Maybe, oh crikey, maybe I am on the right path for the success that eluded me all those years I fought like a caged tiger.

This letting go and going with the flow, it's easy to say isn't it. But it isn't so easy to do. I believe that this change has come about for me after years of meditating. I just changed around four weeks ago to Kelly Howell's brainwave technology http://www.brainsync.com/ and they certainly seemed to have kicked in some pretty amazing stuff.

I do go adrift don't I? What was I saying? Ah yes, stop resisting! Just give up. Hand it over to the universe, God, Great Spirit, your cat or whatever floats your boat. The minute I dropped the reins and said, 'it's a fair cop' the message came back, 'well it's about bloody time you stubborn woman!'

The only way to do it is to do it, and to do it daily. Every time you start 'plotting' and 'planning' your future, remind yourself to stay in the now, enjoy this very moment and live to be happy. Happiness is what we are all after in the end anyway, whether it is wrapped up in material objects, spirituality or relationships, it is ultimately what we all, as human beings, seek in this life.

Take care

Jan

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Stepping up

For the last year I seem to have been on a journey of stepping up to the bar, doing things that I never thought I could do. Last year my greatest achievement was to complete a 60 mile bike ride for Against Breast Cancer.

On Sunday I did my first off road duathlon. It was a one mile run, a five mile bike ride followed by another one mile run. It was over rough woodland terrain and was hard as hell. When we started the run, it was agonising to watch all the younger fitter people hurtling off into the woods. But I knew, after only six week of running training, that I was not going to be up there with the front runners.

So I settled into a rhythm and padded round. 13 minutes later I was mounting up on my bike, expecting some relief from running and not actually getting it! The start was easy, all along flat polo grounds, and then along hardcore woodland tracks. But the last 11/2 miles was purgatory. The ride was mud, dirty, wet, deep and disgustingly sticky mud. Cycling was almost impossible. Getting off and walking the bike wasn't much easier, but most people had to resort to this in places.

At the end of five miles {39 minutes} I started off on my last run. Hello! Who has stolen my legs? I had little feeling below the waist, apart from the sensation of two extremely heavy dead weights attached to my hips. I trundled round, barely raising one foot in front of the other. Slugs laughed at me as I slithered and slid round the woods. But, eventually - 15 minutes later - I reached the finish line. People cheered and clapped, even though they didn't know me. They must have known how hard it was!

I finished 50 out of 56 women, but was one of the oldest in the group. Despite my low position, I was proud of myself. I had raised the bar and now can only get better.

It never fails to amaze me how my physical challenges always have an effect on me emotionally. I tackled the start of the week with some gusto, feeling better than ever and with a sense of certainty for the success of my new projects.

I don't think that we can ever underestimate how much our bodies influence our minds, and vice verse. Worth thinking about eh?

Jan

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