Tuesday 27 January 2009

One step at a time

A few weeks ago, after hurting my arm - suspected torn ligaments - floor wrestling a 15 stone hulk during combat training - I couldn't do my weekly Aikido training, nor could I cycle my 2 hour 30 mile slog on a Saturday morning with Cheltenham County Cycling Club. So I decided to take up running to maintain and possibly increase my fitness.

I tried running a few years back but had problems with my ankle, and I wasn't very good at it. But, this time something had changed. At first I didn't recognise what that something was, as I shuffled up the road, puffing and pushing my resistant legs.

Two nights ago I managed to break my pattern of walk - run - walk and ran the whole 2 miles, which is no mean feat as it is a long 3/4 mile slog up a stiff hill out of the village. My beautiful dog Ellie running by my side, the Ipod pounding the right rhythmic beats into my brain, I began to feel as if running was becoming a moving meditation.

When you decide to step up, it is normal to encounter some resistant. The urge to stop was soooo strong. Hastily flicking on to my most motivational tracks on the ipod, I started talking to myself. Soon I was repeating a mantra.....

'step by step, one foot in front of the other - if I can do this step I can do the next step'

I kept repeating it, and soon I was flying down the hill towards home. Ellie galloped alongside me, her ears flapping in the wind. It felt good. As I zoomed into the gate, I hit my stop watch and was astonished to see I had beaten my best time by two minutes. Doesn't sound a lot, but it is.

That evening I thought about my mantra as a metaphor for business. Isn't this the thing we have to do in our businesses? No matter whether you are a sole trader or a huge corporation you can only move 'step by step' - Businesses grow from applying well considered strategies, creative thinking and by taking massive action 'One foot in front of the other'

We all need support along the way. I count myself to be very lucky on that score, but we have to build our foundations with the bricks and mortar of our own self beliefs. No one can do it for us - 'If I can do this step, I can do the next step'.

Over the last few days, I have seen opportunities that I think I maybe wouldn't have seen before, been given some tools for growth and feel more excited and motivated than I have so far this year. Just from that one mantra!

Life is about capturing important moments, seizing the meaning behind the apparently nondescript events.

Look out for great opportunities waiting just round the corner for you and tell us about your successes.


Take care


Friday 23 January 2009

Ending the drama

I think it was Shakespeare that said, 'All the worlds a stage and all the people are actors upon it', or words to that effect. After some years of daily meditation, I am beginning to understand the concept of this. Everyone is in the drama at some stage - if not all - of their lives.

I am a great fan of 'Scrubs', which is a comedy based in a hospital, currently on E4. In one episode Doctor Cox said 'Even though we are helping these people to get well, we are just delaying the end of the story, which is death' or words to that effect. It is the one great universal truth. We are all at some point going to die. And yet we continue day by day to play the drama.

We play the emotional role, swinging from one emotional state to another; joy to depression, anger to harmony and happiness to misery. None of it makes any sense! Then we play the career drama and the success drama, where we all struggle and strive to be better than we are [right now] so we can earn more money, get a better style of life, be free and live the way we want. But none of that is real anyway, because it is only money that makes this 'game' possible. If we lived in caves and hunted large hairy animals every day, we would only need to think about getting the next meal - and that would be it.

How much more simple would that be? Did prehistoric man have problems with confidence and self esteem, or is this only the drama born out of modern society? I suspect that prehistoric man just got on with things and didn't worry about what others thought of him.

You don't have to be a part of the drama of life. It is your choice as to whether you play the 'game' or not. Most people live a pretty boring life, and the drama is a cheap option for sparking it up a bit.

But as one moves towards enlightenment, one realises that happiness really does come from within and is enhanced by the simpleness of life. I find joy in watching spring lambs and new born calves boinging around the fields. We have snowdrops in the village today. How wonderful is that? Spring is so close, you can almost smell it and the birds sound different. Wonder if they get S.A.D?

Next time you are about to lose the plot, become upset, uptight, stressed or worried just think to yourself that this drama is all inside your head. You can make a definitive choice not to experience this in the same way, and just by making that choice you will not have to play a part in it. I can tell you that it is liberating, it's fun and it prevents a whole lot of unnecessary heartache.

Jan
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Thursday 22 January 2009

Gaining Focus

For many years, keeping my focus was an area where I lacked commitment. Experts tell us that we must set goals if we want to 'succeed'.

This was something I resisted for a LONG time, and I am so not alone!

During the downtime at Christmas I decided to sit down and work out what direction I wanted to take for 2009.

2008 had been a tough year, what with losing my dad to cancer, and struggling with a sick horse for three months. I knew that I had far too many balls up in the air and that if I didn't drop some of them I was in danger of severe burn out!

I decided that I wanted to work smarter. Focusing on creating a way of generating income from the things that I was really good at, I wanted to spend less time and effort driving the momentum to create these things.

What happened surprised me!

I qualified as a Life Coach in 2004, but never quite found the fulfillment and vision of success that I imagined. Why? BecauseI had not got clear about what it was that I wanted, and also what I didn't want.

Several things came out of it: -
  • I wanted to specialise in one area of expertise

  • I prefer face to face coaching, rather than telephone coaching

  • I love working with the horses to help people effect change

  • I wanted to specialise with women in business

  • I was keen to start a womens success coaching group

  • I had more influence than I believed I had

  • and much more

My point is, how many things are you doing that are:-

  1. Wasting your time

  2. Not fulfilling you

  3. Not rewarding you financially

  4. Not necessary

  5. Possible to be outsourced to someone else

  6. Draining the life from you!

Also, what things are you NOT doing that: -

  1. Could dramatically increase your income

  2. Transpose time for money scenarios

  3. Would create passion, momentum & enthusiasm

  4. Could increase your confidence & self esteem

  5. Could re-energise you

  6. Could change your life!

2009 could be a difficult year or it could be the best year you have ever had. It's your choice. Personally I believe that we emerge stronger from tougher times. If we can find the motivation, courage, integrity, passion and enthusiasm to keep going, then we will rise above these times with a far better model of success - and it is likley to be sustainable.

But - and this is most important - the greatest thing that I learned in 2008 is that you cannot do it on your own. We all need help.

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Tata for now

Jan
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